It only took six months, but I finally finished @brenebrown Braving the Wilderness. I realize she’s got plenty, but this was actually the first of hers I’ve read cover to cover - don’t judge me!
I could blame it on writing my own book, or all my travels. But honestly I’ve found that Brene’s work is sometimes hard for me to hear - because, well isn’t the truth kinda like that What other Brene books should I add to my reading list in 2018 What has stood out to you about her message
Here are a few of my fav double doses of truth in this text that I thought might speak to you too. Are you ready to brave the wilderness
“True belonging doesn’t require that we change who we are; it requires that we BE who we are.”
What a relief right! Or is not changing and just being actually way harder! But wait, that’s nothing, read this…
“Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.”
I’ve literally had this exact “you don’t belong” record replaying in my head since a little girl. Time for some self-work shake up to shift from that external validation to internal-reclamation.
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of light.” 🌻
So let’s do some brave exploration wild hearts. It’s okay if it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. Own your space, “I am the wilderness.”
#bravingthewilderness #brenebrown #mondaymotivation #bookquotes #truebelonging #DarktoLight #Bravery #IamTheWilderness #WildHeart #selfworth #YouAreEnough #resilience #heartwork #solopreneur #JustBe
The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown.
Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions - the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.
I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging and joy every time you see me practice self compassion and embrace my own imperfections.
We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honouring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.
We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries , we will honor hard work, hope and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.
You will learn accountability and respect by watching me make mistakes and make amends, and by watching how I ask for what I need and talk about how I feel.
I want you to know joy so together we will practice gratitude.
I want you to feel joy, so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.
When uncertainty and scarcity visit, you will be able to draw from the spirit that is apart of our everyday life.
Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.
We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here.
As you begin your wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.
I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply seeing you. ♥️ #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #theyarealwayswatching #ilovebrenebrown
Authenticity. “To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect — and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude and joy into our lives than by mindfully practicing authenticity.”— Brené Brown
You know when something resonates with you so deeply that you devour it within a day Braving the Wilderness by @brenebrown is one of those books for me.
Do you dim your own light Do you not stand up and say “hey! That’s not on” when you don’t agree with what someone is saying, even when it’s *just* a friend having a bitch I never used to, I had such a fear of not fitting in because I was bullied pretty severely as a 10-11 year old and have struggled to let it go ever since.
When you don’t fit in or are made to feel like you’re not enough at such a ripe age, going against the social flow and saying what’s on your heart feels as scary as jumping out of a plane without a parachute. Sometimes it feels simply impossible - like you’re choking or your mouth simply won’t open (FYI I’ve been using some awesome oils to help with this too). How do we heal this so we can be brave and authentic We practice. And with @brenebrown as your coach (the queen of vulnerability) you’re in capable hands.
Please reach out if you relate to this - I felt alone for many years dealing with bullying and didn’t know how to move past it. Sometimes simply talking it out is the biggest help of all.
Friends, I’m *slowly* adding to the “resources” section on my website with all my favorite books, podcasts, courses, authors + more that have helped to shape the woman that I am today. Head to my website for more inspiration! X
Why is it that the things that makes us human are the exact same things we’re most afraid to share with others If you’re ok with sharing a lot about yourself, then when does it become too much and moreover when does sharing too much become detrimental to your brand If humans respond so well to vulnerability, and human connection is vital for survival, then why do we hide away from sharing what matters to us most ✨
These questions have been popping up a lot for me recently, mostly through working with speakers @the.well_, straddling the fine line of what to share and what not to share on Mullo’s social channels and even just in general — socialising with various peeps all the time. 🔥
Being vulnerable, sharing yourself and your thoughts can be exhausting and scary. Our wonderful speakers at @the.well_ are completely vulnerable to our audience while representing their brands — and they win the audience over ten fold ✨ When I show a picture of myself on Instagram or share a real story about me or what’s going on in my life, the engagement is off the charts. We know that nerves are a product of this vulnerability, and yet deep down I think we all know that the vulnerability is what people are going to respond to most. But how far do you go Can you ever share too much
I think you definitely can. So where’s the line 💥 #mulloinsights
Beautiful quote by @brenebrown via @nvrnotcreative (I love your project so much!) ❤️
Mullo Insights ✨ Those snippets you hear or read that just stay with you. It's as if your mind sticks a post it note on a sentence in a conversation, to remind you to come back to it later. The other person having no idea that what's just been said has become something significant to you.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.
According to the World Health Organization, a record number of young people worldwide are suffering from serious depression or anxiety disorders. In some sections of society, there is a tendency to dismiss this trend as the product of an over-indulged, over-entitled, and over-sensitive “snowflake generation.” More: https://hbr.org/2018/01/perfectionism-is-increasing-and-thats-not-good-news #positivevibes #psychology #perfect #perfectionism #happy #happyness #inspirations #mindset #quotes #brenebrown
Day 18 - spiritual leaders & soul teachers. I simply would not be who I am today without the knowledge and inspiration to grow that these leaders/teachers have shared. Brene has written so many books about how to show up, what authenticity looks like, how to be in touch with yourself and accept your journey. Cynthia Alice Anderson provides regular lessons on love, soul growth, your 12 powers, love languages, our purpose, and acceptance. Debbi Ballard holds a truly special place in my heart, she is the Cantor that officiated our wedding, she taught me so much about Judaism, the Jewish culture and beliefs in what seems like such a short (a year) amount of time. She is so full of love and was a breath of fresh air in our wedding planning process. Clint Brown is force to be reckoned with, I first encountered him when I was 18 going on 35- I have always felt his passion for life. He teaches complex principals in a practical, understandable way by using life lessons and a lot of analogies. This man can also sing like nobody’s business, his voice pours a sense of peace over any circumstance you’re in. Abraham (Esther) Hicks - I’m not sure that anything can be actually said about her besides life changing. She teaches about the power of now, and now, and now. We get caught up in the chaos of past and future and forget about the now. And oh, the Vortex and alignment. Love her. Kim Pothier, she comes by her nickname honestly (realtalkkim) - she is expressive and open and real and honest. She helps remind you who you are, she’s funny, she’s witty, she is also very compassionate. #day18 #spiritualleaders #thankful #soulteachers #november #brenebrown #cantordebbie #realtalkkim #clintbrown #cynthiaaliceanderson #abrahamhicks
“Crazy-busy' is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up with us” #brenebrown
The fourth myth is that self-compassion will make us complacent.
Many of us think that our harshness to ourselves motivates us. We think it gives us our edge. We think that we will work harder and perform better if we are motivated to avoid our own punishing reaction to imperfection and failure. I certainly felt that way for much of my life.
The reality is that constant harsh self talk isn't motivating, but counterproductive and toxic.
If we thought about this seriously, I think we would know it to be true.
After all, we recognise how demotivating is to be around other people who are unrelentingly negative, judgmental, and demeaning. We tend (rightly!) to recoil from these relationships. They aren't much fun, and over time, they sap our optimism, confidence, and performance.😔
So why would the results be any different when we relate to ourselves in the same way 🤔
Self-compassion offers an alternative.
In fact, there's now a promising body of research which shows that self-compassion is a far more effective (and sustainable) source of personal motivation than self-punishment. Some of the research shows that far mor making us complacent, self-compassion actually strengthens personal accountability. 💫💪💞
Are you interested in learning to motivate yourself with self-compassion🤗
Please join me for a free public talk on 28 November at @kndrdmeditation . Link in bio.
We can get so caught up trying to find the right words for someone walking through pain... .
Despite our good intentions we often miss the heart of the matter. .
At the end of the day, we all just want to be seen, heard, acknowledged & validated. .
We want to know somebody notices and that they care... .
We want to know we’re not alone... 💛
#10 ! “We are always trying to present as polished, composed and unshakeable, but we are human and we are not fooling anybody” #brenebrown
Estava assistindo à este TED da Brene Brown sobre o poder da vulnerabilidade e decidi separar esse trecho para dividir com vocês. Ela fala sobre uma pesquisa que demonstra que pessoas que se mostram merecedoras de amor e possuem sensação de pertencimento tem uma coisa em comum: a vulnerabilidade. É preciso aceitar estar vulnerável para ser amado e pertencer.
A autora tem um livro sobre esse tema, chama-se: A coragem de ser imperfeito.
Para quem quiser ver o vídeo completo, aqui está o link: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability/up-nextlanguage=pt-br #t-382228.
O que você pensa sobre isso Quero saber!
Obs.: o vídeo não tem som mesmo, pois, gravei a tela do meu celular. 😊
Day 27 #36daysofmovement
You don’t quite see it on this video, but there’s a grimace on my face and a little stumble as I move into a position that caused sharp pain in my hurting back.
I caught the thought that crossed my mind: “I’ll re-record that so no one will see I messed up.” (Even though—physical pain! It’s not a mess up.) This is akin to my initial hesitation at recording a video of my yoga movement. I imagined someone sitting on the other side of their screen thinking, “she doesn’t know what she’s doing.” Because I don’t practice yoga at a studio.
How you do one thing is how you do everything. When you begin paying attention to the way you talk to yourself in one situation, it’s likely that the same dialogue is in play most everywhere else.
When you begin to pay attention to the subtle whispers, the inner critic, the running dialogue you hear inside, you’re able to disrupt it from taking hold. You become an observer rather than a participant. You gain choice and, ultimately, freedom from the instructional plague of deep-seeded belief systems that no longer have any beneficial use.
But the choice and freedom and letting harsh thoughts be on their way doesn’t come with the snap of a finger.
It took a skilled practitioner to help me identify the roots of this belief pattern. It took a willingness to change them and a commitment to practicing new ways. It took time. Years, perhaps. And probably a homeopathic or flower essence to speed things up.
These thoughts that popped up today don’t take hold of me anymore. I can hear them, and acknowledge them with a pat on the head, and boot out the door. No thank you.
Though the frequency of this voice of fear in being wrong has hugely diminished, she still creeps in now and again. In that, I welcome another opportunity to practice embodying change and celebrate the peace my inner work has found.
Let me know if you need a guide to free up space from that limiting mental chatter.
Ya girl is walking into the week like....yaaaaaaas!
I don’t post posing videos very often...why Let’s be real: Because I feel dumb. You heard it. Fears of how stupid I will look as I practice and bumble immediately surface and all thoughts of putting myself out there run away like my hair is on fire.
@brenebrown says, “When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.” - Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
So, since a goal of mine this month is to improve my leadership skills, I decided to put together this little outtakes video to 1️⃣ entertain you with my random outbursts as I screw up posing and 2️⃣ put myself out there juuuuuust a little bit in the hopes of inspiring someone else that may stumble upon it that it’s ok to do the same.
WHO DO YOU HAVE TO BECOME TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE⠀
This question hits me right in the heart-space knowing every day I’m growing into that woman. I never imagined my day’s to look as bright as they do now and I’m soaking in all the goodness of that. I’m also constantly evolving, because I know there is so much more. More fun. More adventure. More laughter. More connection. More community. More love to be given and received.⠀
Once upon a time I would feel ‘bad’ for expressing I wanted ‘more’ or for things to be different because it seemed that if you were doing ‘ok’ you should just stay there, in ‘ok-land’ and if you mentioned wanting more then you were frowned upon because it must mean your not happy and appreciative of what you already have 🤦♀️ ⠀
That mindset is one I refuse to adopt. I gave myself permission to seek more because there can never be too much good in this world. I say HELLLLL NO to ‘ok’ land. To mediocrity. To ‘good’ but not ‘great’. To ‘getting-by’.⠀
Who does being ‘ok’ serve Me, and me only. And even then, not in the way Id really want it to be. When I’m ‘ok’ I have no overflow to give. Yet when I’m GREAT, I’m overflowing and have so much more to offer the world. To offer my family, my friends, my workplace, my passion projects.⠀
So how do I constantly evolve and grow in a way that fills me up rather than feels like too much hard work Well, I’ve taken up reading, listening to audio books, pod casts, Ted talks, journaling, goal setting, nourishing my body with good nutrition, personal commitments and daily movement.⠀
I’ve only scratched the surface of my growth, I know I’m simply a rose bud being watered by all the actions I’ve implemented. All of these things are why I get so excited about this question, Who do you have to become to live the life you want to live Because I know I’m well on my way and if it’s this good already, I can only keep asking myself, how can it get better than this! 🙏💃🥂
What is it about me that my sensitivity is too much That my feelings feel so hard. Why is it normal for me to reach out to friends to say how my days been rough and I’m looking forward to our already made plans. It’s not even that I’m looking for anyone to handle my feelings. I’m just saying how I’m having a hard time and could really use some company. All I want is to take a break from life and get a bunch of wholesome laughs in to remind me of who I am. But if I am just so slightly off, the people closest to me shut down. They think their aloof presence is enough. And how dare I mention how it hurt my feelings And how dare they blame their uninterested behavior on me being off. I can’t be my bubbly, colorful self all the time. And if you can’t handle me being off, then it’s not my responsibility to tell what you should realize on your own. If you can’t handle it, then do not be around me. It’s not helping faking wanting to be here for someone. It’s crap. It’s hard to not let it translate into “I’m not worthy.” That idea has such a strong grip on me. But I know that these sorts of things speak to their incapability and not mine. But still, it’s hard to feel like I just don’t deserve this sort of love and connection. People take it for granted so much while others are just so damn desperate for it. 🔸”Moon” by Bjork🔸
I'll never forget the first time I watched Brene Brown's Ted Talk, "The Power of Vulnerability," and how my jaw hit the floor when I she informed me that vulnerability is not the same a weakness and that vulnerability is access to love and connection! Happy Birthday, Brene! #BreneBrown #InspirationalRoleModelsMonth #createYOURfuture #lifecoach
The best (and usually most important) things in life are easy to do... and easy NOT to do.
For example... it’s pretty easy to tell your significant other how much you appreciate them, or how great they look today.. but maybe we don’t and we think we can do that tomorrow🤦🏻♀️ It’s pretty easy to open up a book or audio instead of binging Netflix or scrolling social media... but we think we can do that anytime and we just DONT. 😑
It’s SO easy when you think about it, to take your dog for a walk, but since it’s something we can do later, we can put it off... These easy things that we DONT do add up and get compounded until it’s a normal thing to procrastinate and we look back and think about how we could’ve made that loved one feel more special.. since none of us know how long we have... And we could’ve learned so much from books and audio, been inspired and motivated to live the BEST life, instead of keeping up with celebs and watching vampire diaries or whatever... 🙄
We could’ve enjoyed sunsets, trained the dog, spent time with loved ones, gone for a run.. WHATEVER.... these things are EASY... and easy NOT to do.
So RN, my bedroom is half painted, and I could totally watch a movie or chill on the couch...
But here I am, showing up for ME and my accountability group, getting In a killer 30 minute workout on Sunday night 😜
It would be easy NOT TO DO.
but in the long run, I know I’ll sleep better, my skin is clearer, I’ll be healthier, happier, less anxiety and better in EVERY area of my life... the alternative... have a shitty mindset, no energy or motivation... feelin sluggish, restless sleep, constant anxiety and lacking confidence... which makes it pretty EASY TO DO. ✌🏽 If you’re ready to join my tribe and have accountability to show up for YOU, you know where to find me 🖖🏾
Holy breathtaking @brenebrown !!! Listening about cultivating creativity makes me that much more excited to support these brave, beautiful friends as they explore and express themselves in my care!! 😍🎨🌟
David Goggins. Here's another guy you can follow on IG if you're feeling a little lazy.
Tell yourself in 20 words or less what you stand for... In 1999 I asked myself that very question. I did a great job hiding behind that 297lb frame of mine. But the truth is my exterior was a direct reflection on what was going on inside. I was so caught up in trying to create some fake ass person that I could never find out the truth about myself.
When I really examined myself it was ugly. Life had done a job on me. Funny thing is not many people knew how insecure, scared and lost I truly was. When I was faced with a challenge, I would make up a lie why I didn't succeed. That way I would never be judged.
The greatest personal mystery is revealing your purpose in life. It seems like bad days last forever. They last forever because we focus all our attention on the bad day. Nothing is ever what it seems to be! The path won't always be paved, have road signs, warnings, gas stations, etc. Your path might be made with a shovel and a fucked up map.
The path to success will leave you callused, bruised, and very tired. It will also leave you empowered! Be your greatest hero! Only we can truly appreciate our own hard work and dedication! When you are scared and life is hard, hold your own hand!!!! Empower yourself!!! #WeightLoss #diet #fitness #FitnessMotivation #WorkoutMotivation
#TheRock #GetFit #ResistanceTraining #FitnessGoals #TrainHard
#NoExcuses #GetHealty #HealthyLife #Health #Cardio
#Cycling #yoga #spinclass #liftingweights #MileyCyrus
#katyperry #DemiLovato #KourtneyKardashian #brenebrown -
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