Many of you know I have quite a commute and last year I decided to stop listening to the radio and start listening to audio books. This has been by most recent listen and I cannot recommend it enough. And if you’ve ever read anything by @brenebrown you already know it’s amazing. I’m on this journey of trying to truly embrace the woman God created me to and this book has definitely helped guide me in that direction! Go get it now!! #brenebrown #thegiftsofimperfection #selfdevelopment
Ainda sobre estar fascinada com a linguagem simples, objetiva e direta da #brenebrown....
E absoluta certeza da verdade com que ela aborda lideranca!
Acredito assim 🙏🏻💚
Manifesto pela liderança com ousadia
Para executivos e professores.
Para diretores de escola e gerentes.
Para políticos, líderes comunitários e tomadores de decisão:
Nós queremos nos mostrar, queremos aprender e queremos inspirar pessoas.
Fomos criados para os relacionamentos, para a curiosidade e para o envolvimento.
Procuramos o sentido das coisas e temos um profundo desejo de criar e contribuir.
Desejamos correr riscos, acolher nossa vulnerabilidade e ser corajosos.
Quando aprender e trabalhar se tornarem desumanizados – quando vocês não nos enxergarem mais e não estimularem nossa ousadia, ou quando só virem aquilo que produzimos ou a maneira como cumprimos as tarefas –, nós nos afastaremos daquilo que o mundo mais precisa de nós: nossos talentos, nossas ideias e nossa paixão.
O que pedimos é que se envolvam conosco, revelem-se ao nosso lado e aprendam algo que venha de nós.
Dar feedback é uma atitude de respeito; quando não há conversa sincera sobre nossas forças e nossas oportunidades de crescimento, nós questionamos a nossa contribuição e o seu comprometimento.
Acima de tudo isso, pedimos que vocês se mostrem, que se deixem ser vistos e que sejam corajosos. Ousem conosco.” Trecho de
A coragem de ser imperfeito
#vivodeamor #ousadia #lideranca
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy - the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown
I’m learning more and more to wear my heart on my sleeve, and to allow my vulnerabilities to be seen. For a long time, I shut off from this, thinking I was protecting things or that I had to prove something.
But I’ve learnt that in allowing ourselves to be seen and our stories to be shared, it allows others to be there for you and be part of your journey, and you theirs. I don’t have to do it all myself, and some of the hardest things can bring about some of the best.
So allow yourself to be authentically you - vulnerabilities and all - and it will help guide you to where you’re meant to go!
This is not a portrait... but this place is just as vulnerable as we are... This past week I was here, in nature... something I do when I need to clear my head... While I’ll was capturing this image, Mary Oliver, the amazing poet, activist and kind soul passed. She was able to capture the beauty that surrounds us with her words. I read her poems when I get weary in my daily life... her words, like nature reassure me... The world is TRULY a wonderful place. .
One of my favorites
Did you too see it, drifting, all night, on the black river
Did you see it in the morning, rising into the silvery air -
An armful of white blossoms,
A perfect commotion of silk and linen as it leaned
into the bondage of its wings; a snowbank, a bank of lilies,
Biting the air with its black beak
Did you hear it, fluting and whistling
A shrill dark music – like the rain pelting the trees – like a waterfall
Knifing down the black ledges
And did you see it, finally, just under the clouds -
A white cross Streaming across the sky, its feet
Like black leaves, its wings Like the stretching light of the river
And did you feel it, in your heart, how it pertained to everything
And have you too finally figured out what beauty is for
And have you changed your life - Mary Oliver
Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. – Brené Brown
#ilovemyfriends #brenebrown #quotesilove ********
📸: @all2human.photography @lisa.evolution.lab
“Vulnerability-the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of the outcome.” Brene Brown. I started reading Rising Strong last night. I’m only through the intro and I don’t know if it’s because Brene is a social worker and researcher which speaks to that side of me, or if it’s because she loves people’s stories and knows that experience can by far be the best teacher, which is like peeking into my soul, but this quote alone makes me scream YES.
You may think this is a silly social media channel, and at surface level, it is. But, believe it or not I have made some of the greatest connections and found beautiful community on this little app. And do you know why It’s because I connect with others willing to be vulnerable. Every single time you see me post here, it is with deep thought and incredible intention. I don’t share just to share. Every time I hit that publish button, I hold my breath, because I never know how it is going to be taken, and I’m taking a big risk, a risk OUTSIDE of my introverted comfort zone, to be seen, even if it’s just a spoonful of our life and story. This work is far from glamorous. When I was sending off my workbook to be reviewed and critiqued, I said more times than I can count, “here’s a big part of my heart and soul on paper!” Because that was the truth. It’s not shiny, it’s hard. It’s not easy, it’s complex. Lest you think I’m over here in my big house living it up (hi, we live in a 2 bedroom apartment 🤪), today was the first day I took a shower since Monday morning. Other than taking my son to gymnastics Tuesday and today, we haven’t left our apartment. Like many of you, I too am drowning in an overflowing sink, floors that are never clean, mountains of laundry piling up, sacrificing sleep to work and likely opening another chick-fil-a sauce for my son as it splatters on my shirt (which let’s be real is a repeat from yesterday). But it’s worth it. All of this, all the hard, all the complexity, all the risk of not being everyone’s chick-fil-a sauce is worth it. So thank you for being here, and I hope these spoonfuls help you. Giveaway in previous post-don’t forget today’s the last day to enter!
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” -Brené Brown
Have you ever struggled with a sense of belonging I have for years, and struggled with panic disorder as part of my grief. A new blog post is up, and was one of the harder ones to write. It’s raw and honest, maybe a little shocking, and I hope you give it a read. ♥️ ☀️ And thank you @brenebrown for helping me find the courage to dig deep and write.
#griefdetox #thegriefdetox #griefquotes
No particular reason for this today, except that I totally agree. Obsessed with #brenebrown #truth
“Revolution might sound a little dramatic, but in this world, choosing authenticity and worthiness is an absolute act of resistance. Choosing to live and love with our whole hearts is an act of defiance.” #brenebrown #giftsofimperfection
We are equals. Those who do compassion well are not better because they are the “healers;” they simply have known darkness too. #risingstrong #brenebrown
The words for this post were inspired again by the original rumi quote used by @womenwithsparkle last week in a fabulous post. I have had my head down writing all week and have not caught up with insta. This idea that we are all searching constantly is one that I believe many of us share. Searching for perfection, verification, reassurance, the next best thing, the solution, the quick fix. Mindfulness teaching tells us to settle in the moment and appreciate it for its unique value but you should be following that even when you are not meditating or resting. We can think that the grass is greener or if only I do ....then ....will happen and I will be so much happier- but often we already have all the tools we need to have that happiness we just need to sort them out in life and in our minds. We probably have the answers already, we are wise enough and we have come this far- maybe that diamond is with you and in you, you just need to feel it.
I feel I have not put my head above water in my working hours this week (all in a good way) but have learned a lot about myself partly prompted by reading @brenebrown book about imperfection on my train rides last weekend- more to come on that. I have been writing about psychology and colour- just make sure you see colour- it’s all around you and impossible to miss if you actually look ❤️❤️💚💚💙💙 #louphilosophicalmoment #amwriting #writer #realdoctor #focus #comeupforair #midlife #tomidlifeandbeyond #inspire #stopsearching #mindful #useyourwisdom #beyou #rumi #brenebrown
Let me be clear. Be patient if he’s expressing a willingness to change and his behavior is showing you that he’s trying to change. If that’s not the case, we need to have a different conversation.
Love you all. ❤️
💛🐱 LEITURINHAS #09 .
LIVRO: A Coragem de Ser Imperfeito .
AUTOR: Brené Brown .
Como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é, pode levar a uma vida mais plena. O livro explica como utilizar nossa própria vulnerabilidade e imperfeição para conquistar mais conexões e bons resultados na vida. Explicando as raízes do sentimento de vergonha, a autora nos mostra que nossa sociedade, que costuma limitar pessoas com este sentimento, precisa se adaptar a uma nova cultura: a da vulnerabilidade .
💡 A maior certeza que eu trouxe da minha formação em serviço social é esta: estamos aqui para criar vínculos com as pessoas .
💡 Não são as suas ações, mas o motivo por trás delas que faz toda a diferença .
💡 Uma das estratégias mais universais de entorpecimento é viver loucamente atarefado. Nossa sociedade aceitou a ideia de que, se estivermos sempre muito ocupados, a verdade de nossas vidas não nos alcançará .
💡 Abrir mão de nossas emoções por medo de que o custo seja muito alto significa nos afastarmos da única coisa que dá sentido e significado à vida .
💡 Eis o paradoxo: vulnerabilidade é a última coisa que quero sentir em mim, mas a primeira que procuro no outro .
💡 O resultado de viver com ousadia não é uma marcha da vitória, mas uma tranquila liberdade mesclada com o cansaço gostoso da luta .
1⃣ A vergonha pode nos impedir de fazer coisas que almejamos: ela é construída sobre o medo da rejeição e, apesar de ser natural, precisa ser desmistificada .
2⃣ A vergonha tem como base o medo de sermos rejeitados pelos outros: ela é danosa para a nossa vida e sociedade; é preciso entendê-la e aceitá-la .
3⃣ Apesar de ser um sentimento associado a momentos difíceis, a vulnerabilidade é a chave para as coisas boas da vida: é preciso estarmos abertos e vulneráveis para amar e sentir alegria .
4⃣ A vulnerabilidade é parte central da nossa vida emocional e a vergonha é uma forma de barrá-la: mas a vulnerabilidade é positiva e deve ser aceita .
5⃣ Para sermos resistentes a vergonha precisamos verbalizar nossos receios, nos abrir com as pessoas e começar a viver uma vida mais conectada .
E você Já leu! 💛🙌
So I've been stuck in bed all day watching Netflix... wouldn't be all that bad except for the flu that put me here! Blech. These two movies have been on my list to watch alone (i.e. Ryan doesn't want to watch them) and they got me thinking so much about 🌼confidence 🌼vulnerability &
And why do we have to learn about this as adults...how many times do we say to our kids to treat others how we would want to be treated How often do we talk to our kids about how they treat themselves
My favorite authors on this topic:
Dr. Brene Brown
Dr. Kristin Neff
If you don't already follow them you definitely should!
#shinetruewellness #holisticwellness #bevulnerable #haveselfcompassion #brenebrown #kristinneff
Day 22 of @theVulnerabilityChallenge: What is my truth
I never understood the expression “to stand in your truth”. It sounded like something that great people do that makes Oprah Winfrey want to interview them. But I didn’t get it.
In the same way that I never really knew how to answer the question ‘what do you want’, all these things sounded vague and unreachable.
Except that maybe not knowing what you want is just a way of saying, “I don’t want to admit what I want because then I won’t have an excuse for not going for it.”
Oprah doesn’t interview people who don’t know what they want.
So I decided to admit what I wanted and take responsibility for going for it. Maybe then my truth would appear. And it did. When I finally spoke what I wanted into the world, when I stopped hiding my big dream behind a smaller one, it came.
Behind the chatter and noise of the familiar voices of worry and doubt, I heard something different… not from the outside but from the place you breathe into when you take a deep breath. It came from a kind of certainty, the place where integrity, strength and belonging come from. It came from the person I’m meant to be and it said:
“Find me the arena and I will show up”
This is the only way I know how to describe ‘my truth’. It’s the voice that calls you out of yourself into something much greater than you’ve imagined before. It comes through when you tune out the chatter of your internal doubts and fears and the external messages about what you should chase after and say and look like.
My truth is the transformative energy that comes from falling in love with everything that has ever happened to me to make me who I am today and that will drive me to be who I’ll be tomorrow.
My truth is the desire to find arenas completely outside my comfort zone that are big enough to draw out the best, the greatest, the impossible, the powerhouse in me.
#greatness #power #truth #thevulnerabilitychallenge #vulnerability #acceptance #identity #brenebrown #risingstrong #happiness #success #authenticity
Okay I’m late to the party here but I am blown away by this album @andygrammer. So, were you a life coach or a Sherpa in a former life I’m seriously going to start gifting this album to all of my clients as I onboard them. Homework—Listen to “Goodparts,” “85,” “Working On It” and “Grow” before session one. Damnit, now I’m going to have to start listening to your podcast too! I don’t think my heart can take it. Well, damn, add it to the queue. Seriously brother, thanks for this labor of love. Also, my son wants to know what chasing money means and “why is it running away from us”
I remember telling my mom I didn’t want to go to gymnastics practice because of my fear of having to go for a skill I was nervous to try.
But it wasn’t that I didn’t want to go to practice, it was the fear of trying the unknown that kept begging my mom to let me stay home.
But my mom and dad knew better and I thank them all the time for pushing me to just show up.
Because once I showed up for practice I would realize I had the support of my coaches and teammates who only wanted to see me happy and confident and brave.
So to all my girls if you want something but your scared just show up. And see what happens.
Always, always rooting for you especially when on your journey of brave choices.
#gymnastics #gymnast #champion #athlete #confidence #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #selfcare #selflove #dedication #consistency #choosejoy #strongwomen #stronggirls #womenempowerment #strongisbeautiful
Who else loves @audible 🙋🏽♀️
Decided to use my free credit to listen to #daretolead by #brenebrown and it has some key lessons I’ll try to implement at work, school, and home. This quote stood out to me today as a way to live in balance. Plus, I love napping 😴and I love doing something other than planning out my life ✅
" I know I will eventually fail, and im still all in." This quote about daring from Brene Browns book is so perfect for me. I was scared of all the what ifs and i can't do it, i don't want to fail or be embarrassed. These fears stopped me from living my best life. I took a huge jump and it forced me to become comfortable with the uncomfortable. It has made me branch out and talk to people I normally wouldn't out of fear of judgment.
If anyone has ever felt these fears in any aspect of life, you are not alone. If anyone is willing to take a jump and join my team I am looking for three motivated people who believe in themselves and want to test the possibilities of grown, financial freedom, and getting out of the comfort zone. All this is a risk free just dm me and say yes to learning more.
#rodanandfields #motivation daring #brenebrown #lifeadventure #ownCEO #financialfreedom
#growth #change #myyear
#goals #team #girlswithtattoos #girlswholift #bossbabe #skincare #family #confidence #realresults
I want to think again of dangerous and noble things. I want to be light and frolicsome. I want to be improbable beautiful and afraid of nothing. As though I had wings. RIP #maryoliver ❤️ thank you for your light and spirit #thankfulheart
In 2009, I was calorie-counting, people-pleasing,confused and assumed everyone’s answers were better than my own. Now, I’m self-assured that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be: living an alcohol free life connecting with amazing people and leading retreats,workshops and a festival across the country about the powers of rewilding and resilience. To say that 10 years makes a difference is an understatement.
I still have days of doubt, or days when I don’t want to do it all, but the more inner and outer work I do, the more I realize how much each and every one of us is capable of. You really can do that thing you think you can’t.
You are not your mind. So much of those negative thoughts come from I mprinted messages from our ego. Change your belief system, change your life.
Imagine how we could change our local, regional, and national communities if our young ones today were taught resilience, self-love and the importance of exploration.
I hope this year you challenge yourself to think different. To embrace the magic that is out there. I hope you realize you are a walking miracle with a message to share with your community. I am so grateful for this life and the opportunity to share this message with you. I hope you find meaning in it today.
Now get out there and howl your message at the moon! 💃🏻🌱🙏🌗
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — @brenebrown
Boundaries are so important for personal relationships, healthy communication, and self-esteem. They are especially important for those in recovery and helping professions. How do you cultivate and preserve boundaries #thursdaythoughts
MOOD: excited 💯 Did you catch @nourishwomenscollective this morning on CLT Today You can grab your discounted She’s Brave ticket until midnight tonight - just go to nourishwomen.co and select the She’s Brave 2019 tab. We can’t wait to see you! xoxo @shnamarie #hopewriterlife
Shame silences the struggle. It’s the voice inside our head that says, “your problem isn’t big enough, you don’t matter, no one cares.” Unfortunately it’s also the reaction to our needs of connection, acceptance and love not being met when we’ve reached out for help in the past. Shame is defined as “I am bad” rather than guilt, which is “I did something bad”. It cuts us off from connecting with others in our commonality of struggle. No matter what you see on social media, no matter how happy or “perfect” someone’s life looks like to you on the outside, we are ALL human. We ALL struggle. This is not something to be silenced but rather something to be SHARED. #shameresilience #brenebrownquotes #brenebrown #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #selfcare #selflove #shameless #shame
We're social beings, meant to support each other. Breastfeeding is a learned skill, and something many moms struggle with. Sometimes asking for help seems harder than anything else, but it's often a critical step towards achieving our goals. Asking for help is vulnerable, and strong.
#ittakesavillage #brenebrown #breastfeeding #evidencebased #helplatch 📸 Sergiu Valenas
It’s not your fault that you believe the things that you do. It’s definitely not your fault that you consider your body a punching bag for when things go wrong. It’s no wonder that you turn to exercise, food and other behaviours as a means of trying to control something and find happiness. I can’t and won’t blame you, because for too long the diet and weight loss industry has fed us constant lies that changing our bodies will lead to happiness.
Recognising the lie is the first step. The next step requires you to then reject the notion that happiness comes with a body shape that is “acceptable enough” (whatever that is 🧐). It’s hard, definitely. But aren’t you sick of constantly searching for happiness in the same place that you lost it Don’t you want to try something different What if you could be happy and content with yourself and not have to restrict/control you food/count numbers meticulously/diet and exercise obsessively What if that wasn’t just a story and was actually real Not fiction, just fact
I challenge you to stop focusing on changing your body shape, and start focusing on changing your mind. Engage in positive talk only, unfollow unhelpful influencers, distance yourself from negative talk and actively seek to immerse yourself in anything to do with Health at Every Size. Doing these things really helped me along my way. I found happiness in a foreign place, and man it feels good 🌸❤️
#HAES #fatacceptance #bodydiversity #edwarrior #edrecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #edcommunity #warrior #prorecovery #inspiration #motivation #selfcare #selflove #effyourbeautystandards #mentalhealth #brenebrown #mentalhealthawareness #anorexia #bulimia #anorexiarecovery #bulimiarecovery #bingeeatingdisorder #depression #anxiety #addiction #shame #guilt #edfamily #edfam #eatingdisordersurvivor
Today is a hard day. I’m not sure what it is about today, there’s nothing ‘bad’ that has happened today. By most standards, it should be a great day! We woke up, we are healthy, all of the blessings of another day. I have an event planned for this evening that I’ve really been looking forward to.
It’s also another day of sitting with the reality of the life I’ve been living these past almost 4 years. .
Another day I woke up with my two beautiful children next to me.
It’s been 19 weeks. Almost 5 months of solo-momming. Today is day 134 of us three walking this out together. Day 134 of me standing strong in the boundaries is was past time to create. .
We share a beautiful life in so many ways, I am so very blessed and I am deeply grateful. .
There’s also been a dark side beneath the surface. A life of secrecy. Deception. Betrayal. Trauma. Abandonment. Addiction. .
I’ve shoved down so many of the feelings that stem from a life like that. Allowing myself to be vulnerable, really truly vulnerable, has only left me disappointed again and again these past 4 years. The emotional weight of it is catching up to me now. .
It is so raw, it’s hard to know how to talk about. How do I let down the emotional wall I built to protect myself through all of this .
But I’m craving true connection, and that can only be built when I release the need to stay emotionally ‘safe’ and shield my heart.
So here it is friends. It’s uncomfortable. You have the option to move away or come in closer. .
But today, I’m choosing to allow myself to feel my feelings. .
Today, I’m reclaiming my story.
#trauma #vulnerability #reclaimyourvoice #soloparenting #settingboundaries #acceptingwhatis #fantasyvsreality #makinghardchoices #addictionawareness #stayinyourlane #hardbacksoftfrontwildheart #brenebrown #holdingspaceforhealing #letthewallsdown #trueconnection
Take an index card
Write powerful, strong affirmation about yourself on whatever you’re working through at the moment. I have a lot more written on the other side 💗
Put it in your purse (or backpack 😊) & carry that everywhere!
When that voice creeps up in your head
Remind yourself who you are!✨
Connection. It’s why we are here. How can you connect with your kids today #brenebrown