And this will be even harder to take in:
Every partner you’ve ever had you’ve been spiritually matched with. On the same playing field. You found each other.
Trust me, I know this isn’t a crowd pleasing post. And I know how tough this could be to wrap your head around. I know because I was convinced that some of the men I had been in a relationship with were below me psycho emotionally and spiritually. Because the truth is you’ve likely (maybe) have had partners who DID behave worse than you did. Who were not as kind as you. However, if you stayed in the relationship, you had as much growing to do as they did. People find each other to subconsciously work their crap out with one another until we do the very deep inner work that evolves us to next stage of our development.
And this is the point of it all anyway. If we start to view relationship as not just this place we enter to GET love and our needs met, but rather as a space to evolve and learn, I believe our hearts would ache less. Our failed relationships are actually NOT meant to reinforce our crappy feelings about ourselves, but rather to reveal where the deficits are in our ability to open and love. Even if that love is the love of oneself.
If you were a car salesmen and a customer who’s interested in buying an electric car walked into your store, would you spend all your time telling them about your newest diesel car just because it’s your favorite car and what your boss told you to offer to everyone
Of course not, you’d show them your best electric car and continue talking in terms of their desire … and they would basically sell themselves.
It seems obvious, but how often do we forget this common-sense principle in real life How often do we slip and continue inundating people with our wants, our needs … even our complaints
Dale Carnegie already wrote the famous phrase, “To be interesting, be interested” decades ago. We’re all dying to express our own thoughts, opinions, and desires. If you’re one of the few people who grants us this opportunity instead of forcing yours onto us and getting into a competition of who gets to talk, you’ll create more influence than by trying to use any persuasion gimmicks. … given your intentions are actually genuine, honest, and focused on serving the other person.