One of the most powerful aspects of boudoir photography is the journey I’ve been privileged to experience in my own relationship with my body. As you know, I’m a firm advocate for body acceptance and positivity, but we all have areas in our own lives that are easy to leave unexamined.
When Chrystal at Curvy Girl Lingerie asked me to review the Womanizer Plus, I accepted with delight. And then proceeded to procrastinate about it for quite a while. Talking about sex is sensitive. It’s delicate. It can be awkward. It took me quite a while to write.
Here’s my vulnerably complete review of the Womanizer. I hope it’s helpful for you, too. (And you can get 25% off with code Curvy25!): https://buff.ly/2NK61yf ◇─◇──◇────« »────◇──◇─◇ #bodieslikeoceans » #bodieslikemountains » #weightneutral » #bodyneutral » #dietindustrydropout » #bodytrust » #bodylove » #bodyacceptance » #fatliberation » #fatticorn » #takingupspace » #intersectionalorgtfo » #allbodiesareworthy » #bigandblunt
"I think mainstream body positivity simply is lacking true fat acceptance. They want 'all bodies are good bodies' to have an addendum saying 'as long as they look healthy and are packaged in a way that's easy to swallow.' Case in point: I had a paid Smart Glamour ad go up on a plus site's Instagram of our [size 5X] model Linni in the Arianna dress, and all the followers/readers of this page that are always crying out for accurate representation came out of the woodwork to police her body. It was so saddening and enraging to me.
Bodies don't all look like perfectly airbrushed fashion images — and accurate representation doesn't just mean a larger version of the same airbrushed hourglass Eurocentric 'ideal.' Not everyone has perky breasts, no cellulite, clear skin, etc., and if you aren't OK with seeing those things, you aren't actually asking for accurate representation." » Mallorie Dunn, owner and designer of size inclusive brand Smart Glamour @smartglamour ◇─◇──◇────« »────◇──◇─◇ #bodieslikeoceans » #bodieslikemountains » #weightneutral » #bodyneutral » #dietindustrydropout » #bodytrust » #bodylove » #bodyacceptance » #fatliberation » #fatticorn » #takingupspace » #intersectionalorgtfo » #allbodiesareworthy » #bigandblunt
You’ve heard me saying how little attention I was paying recently to my self care. When I dug under the surface there were clear reasons I was doing this to myself.
If you haven’t been paying attention to your self care, why is that There is no judgement in this question, only an earnest hope that you’ll discover some hidden treasure that will allow you to let go of that which has been hurting you.
And sometimes the things that stand between ourselves and the depth of self care we really need are very real and beyond our control. Even so, we can still try to give ourselves the best care that we are able within the restraints or limitations placed upon us from outside. It may not be the true depth of what we need, but we can still find ways to attend to ourselves. In fact we must. We must. The world we want the children and grandchildren to inherit must have a legacy of self care woven in to it. I believe HOW we build will ultimately end up being WHAT we build. So please, take as good a care of yourself as you are able. You can be both striving to be a better human for a better world and hold your own heart in tender hands.
I've been diagnosed with sleep apnea! I stop breathing 57 times an hour. I was actually really excited because most experiences I have of being ill take forever to diagnose because of fatphobia. Though, you could probably say this took forever too since it took years for a doctor to be like, all your symptoms and other issues like PCOS, weight gain, depression can all relate back to lack of sleep and boy howdy your airway is very small.
ANYWAY the excitement has worn off and I'm just regular exhausted this afternoon. Looking forward to being a CPAP babe and feeling better and getting some of my chronic inflammation down a titch.
#Fatticorn #FatGlorificationCouncil #AllBodyJourneysAreValid #BigAndBlunt #NonBinary #IntersectionalOrGTFO #BodyPositive #FatAcceptance #TakingUpSpace
First, go follow @desireeadaway. 🖤 I’ve been struggling for months with feeling like I’m not doing enough to fight what’s happening, despite carrying a heavy clinical as well as private shamanic caseloads, signing petitions on the daily, sending $ to social justice causes (most recently RAICES), writing my reps, and belonging to groups whose purpose is to resist, challenge, and heal the ills of racism, sexism, and patriarchy. So I’m out here on social media now, using this too as a means of resistance. I tend to leave deeply personal things off of social media re my private life, and this reflex, borne of 25+ years as a psychotherapist trained to function as the classic “opaque mirror”, has translated into my relative silence on matters of politics, because it always seemed too personal to talk seriously about. No more. I’m using my voice here, in new ways. Some of you might not like it. Too bad, life is short, I’ve got eschaton-immanentizing business to attend to, a metric fuckton of good trouble to get all up into, oppressive paradigms to help upend, and a whole lotta shit to disturb. 🖤 The new website is almost finished, and I’m soliciting ideas for an explicitly intersectional af healer collective for those practicing in mainstream as well complementary disciplines. Please tag anyone you think might be interested too. Let’s heal together. 🖤 #healtogether #whohealsthehealers #raices #blacklivesmatter #lgbtqialivesmatter #disabledlivesmatter #womenslivesmatter #intersectionalorgtfo #resist #nopeacewithoutjustice #medicinefortheearth #shamanichealing #handsonhealing #intheshelterofeachother
I haven’t been able to bring myself to watch the news today and when I think I about the current situation in this country I waver between absolute dread and anger. I’m glad I opened up Twitter and first on my feed was this. Thank you #universe and #brittanypacknett for these words. We can’t let the fear or anger have us paralyzed or running for the hills. We need to get up, get out and do something! Register voters. Talk to friends and family and get them registered. Canvas in swing districts or phone bank for progressive candidates. We need to show up at marches and protests and not let this administration get a single moment of peace!
I have faith in us! Rise up! Resist!
And as Brittany said “Stay woke. Keep fighting.”
#riseup #resist #fuck45 #letsdothisshit #resistance #resist45 #feministaf #intersectionalorgtfo
We will remember this day. I want that to be because this is the day we chose to stand together, to offer our neighbors our witness and our support. May this be the day that we stop tone policing people of color and start listening and learning from what they’ve experienced and seen. May we remember this as the day that we chose to stand together, to rise for the things that matter to us, and to create the kind of world we want to leave our children. May this be the day we say our government is not working for us and we have the power to change that. There’s no time for apathy or othering. We must rise now. We will be stronger if we rise together.