A wall of new starts. It seems this group wanted to start off with “mass”, whereas last time it was “line”. Fascinating to me how the starting element informs the next move. I should brush up on my chess skills and search an analogy there.
Share a WIN!
Let's have a Thankful Thursday and share our wins!
Tag a friend who has done something amazing AND share something you've recently accomplished that you're proud of.
Having a positive mindset first thing in the morning is a beautiful way to start the day 😊❤🙏
Day three. Here's Miss Scarlet with Miss Can-I-Have-A-Treat. Miss Scarlet is showing her pretty face at Archival Gallery this month. Miss Can-I-Have-A-Treat shows her pretty face each day in my studio.
I saw a post today because I follow the hashtag #resilient. The post was from a woman who was PISSED OFF about the situations that brought her to her current state, &the concept that she should be grateful for them since they made her strong. She virtually shouted that, “No, these situations didn’t make her strong; her resilience made her strong, & she would never give credit for her strength to such horrible parts of her life.”
Well, I can relate, but she’s wrong. .
I also saw this quote that says something like “You can’t love yourself if you hate the circumstances that shaped you.” I call bullshit there too.
First off, the whole definition of resilience is “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.”
Resilience is a skill that you develop through overcoming difficulties. There is no resilience without obstacles, just as there is no courage without fear. The negative experience is necessary in order for the positive character trait to develop. .
But do we have to LOVE the hurdles, traumas, struggles that made us strong, courageous, and resilient Hell no, we don’t have to love them. Acknowledge them, yes. Accept that they happened & that they changed us somehow, that we grew from them, yes. You can’t live in denial that the hard things were part of your story, that they caused a new layer to form in your character; one that is stronger than it was before & exists due to the hard things. .
I was thinking about this. There are some who don’t bounce back. There’s a difference in those who do. It’s determination, spirit, a reason to get back up, a belief in yourself &the recognition that there is always something to be salvaged from the wreckage. Even if the only thing salvageable is the story you can tell to comfort others who find themselves face down in the same muck you managed to pull yourself out of. .
Bottom line is that resilience is a skill that you develop over time, through experience. Negative experiences are like the heavy weights you lift to condition your muscles at the gym. They’re what make you the most resilient. You can hate every minute of those experiences, but you can’t deny they shaped you & you emerged stronger.