I don’t know what people complain about our babies are easy, always happy and smiley, people say to me they are never sad you must be a good dad
This is a complete LIE, today Steph sent me some screen shots from one of the twins and multiple support groups on Facebook about a mum who had taken a beautiful picture of he twins and it was captioned “I’m seriously so lucky. These kids are so good. People are always telling me I’ve got my hands full and look at me with amazement. But what I don’t tell them is they are just so easy. The first month or two was difficult, but they are so calm and happy. But .... still waiting for them to get mobile 😂” following with lots of other people saying about how easy their twins and multiples are one in particular said she wished her twins would just cry for one time 🤦🏼♂️
Now I’m not trying to bring them down far from it if their babies are easy that is excellent for them and I can understand them posting about it. But as soon as Steph sent me this I knew it was because our girls of late have been particularly difficult with lots of screaming and crying and sleepless nights, I could see it just made her feel crap, I sort of had to message slap Steph and remind her while this could be true we don’t know their circumstances, their twins could have been born at term, no complications, no reflux, no feeding problems, lots of support etc etc, but also there could be people saying how easy they have it and how their babies never cry but it could be complete fabrication 🤷🏼♂️ there’s a picture of smiling babies and a quick few words it cannot tell you the whole story it’s only a snapshot of those peoples lives ———————————————————
What I’m trying to say is don’t always believe everything you see/read/hear online it could be complete truth but it also may not be, it’s easy to make things seem a particular way online but doesn’t mean that it is that way in real life, you don’t need compare your life to someone’s online profile or post, you are the best version of you that you can be right now 💚
I saw this posted somewhere and saved it a while back.
It really sometimes is this simple. I have had so many conversations with kids and teens lately who feel on the outside. Outside of their friend group, their family, their dance class, soccer crew, you name it.
Maybe the best way we can support our kids is to teach them to be includers, to watch out for those on the edges, to have empathy and compassion, and to invite someone in.