VICTIM TO VICTOR 🔥
This post may either inspire you or trigger you but here's the truth......... *
For many years I allowed myself to be devalued and feel worthless as part a relationship, it ate away at every part of me and impacted all areas of my life especially my physical and mental health. I completely lost who I was, my value and my purpose. It's happened so slowly over the years I didn't even realise it was happening. *
By my nature I'm a 'fixer', I want to heal and help people, I want to see people living the best life they can and I nearly destroyed myself in the process of doing this. The start of my personal journey 3 years ago was me wanting to learn more for me, knowing that there had to be more than the life I was living and the more I grew the bigger the divide in my personal life. You start to see the true reality of what's happening around you and the destruction it's causing but as your self worth gets lower and lower it seems harder and harder to break free. I was a VICTIM of my own life and felt powerless *
In November 2018 (despite many years of professional input from psychiatrists, therapist's, medication etc for that person) something happened that crossed every boundary for me and also had a significant impact on my children and that was the moment I remembered who I was and said ENOUGH for the final time and broke free *
The funny thing about this is although I was 'free' some of the biggest battles were yet to come. This year has been a huge year of learning, growing, soul searching, crying, rebuilding, healing and then a sudden realisation that I was still living in fear to some degree by not standing up for what was right for a fear of triggering a reaction in someone else. It really hit me when the professional working with my children pointed out that I was still allowing the fear of that person to control me and worse still control me in my decision making with what was in the best interest of the children. Another ENOUGH moment for me followed by huge personal growth again *
So the truth is I ALLOWED MYSELF to be a victim of my own life, no one made me, I have to take responsibility for that, and once we take res
With the countdown to university now on, I hope to run a weekly series about how to prepare for Law School for all the freshers out there 💫
Once I found out whether I’d be accepted into my chosen uni, we were sent a preparation pack to complete by the first teaching week. Although I wasn’t overly impressed to be given ‘homework’ over the summer, it was a really helpful introduction into law as it wasn’t something I had previously studied.
📚For this, I read ‘Glanville Williams: Learning the Law’ which was first published in 1945 so has been tried and tested by many generations of law students! It’s a great simple introduction however you probably won’t need it past the first month so I would recommend either borrowing a copy or buying second-hand.
📚I would also recommend you get your hands on ‘The Secret Barrister’ which everyone seems to be reading right now. This will definitely challenge your perception of the justice system, particularly as you begin your legal studies.
📚For a more speculative read, check out Richard Susskind’s ‘Tomorrow’s Lawyers’ or ‘The Future of the Professions’; both books make predictions about the future of legal jobs and particularly focus on how technology will adapt the way lawyers work. For those interested in legal tech, definitely add this to your reading list!
📚And finally...’Winning Arguments’ by Jay Henirichs is a great light-hearted approach to help students structure arguments, both written and oral. Although it is probably more focused on those who wish to go down the advocacy route, it is is still undoubtedly a useful read.
I’ve been speaking of values a lot lately and what I value most in life is time, my relationships with people, and making a difference in the lives of those around me. I’m feeling very thankful today for the time spent in mountains and on lakes the last week with family and friends ✌🏻
Setting the intention: to be Healthy, Wealthy, Happy, and Free🧘🏻♀️🧠👛👗👙🌂🐥