**SPOILER ALERT: Everything we've been taught about "give + take" is a MYTH. You heard me!! This infamous duo wasn't always meant to dance in every number together.
Now I am not recommending being a "mooch-y Margot" ...BUT I want you to know that an act of taking does NOT imply an immediate, reciprocated act of giving in the right circumstances.
Let me explain.
Many of us women stink at asking for help.
I know this isn't shocking news to you. We’re in a time where women want to prove with loud voices we are STRONG, CAPABLE, and ACCEPTABLE as ourselves, without a man beside or women behind us. We want to prove to the world (and ourselves) that we. got. this.; to believe the illusion that we can do it on our own.
"I can carry the groceries in by myself, darn it!"
Much less drama and heartbreak, right
I'm here to tell you that allowing yourself to be a TAKER is not wrong.
Are you hearing me!
BEING A TAKER IS NOT WRONG.
Accepting a compliment without negating it or one up-ing the giver with a grander compliment
Asking for help from a girlfriend when your spouse is out of town and you're overwhelmed with juggling work + kiddos
Letting mom come hang out for a week while you prepare for an exam, big presentation, or just while you walk through a storm
*Trust me, you will have your opportunity to give.*
What better givers might we be if we posture ourselves to receive and really absorb the gift itself rather than rush into busied service to the first person offering help
It’s so tough for me to let my husband REALLY help me. He's been trying to do so for years and my pride just wouldn't let him. In this season, I’ve had to face my "dread" in being a taker and I've found, rather than feeling guilty for my inability to immediately give back, it has truly increased my love for him, gratitude for his heart for me, and the godly man he is. His example is my guide when it’s my turn just to give to him 💜
Sun Salutation A flow is a great way to awaken our inner self and illumine the mind while distributing the prana flow throughout. Some of the many benefits of doing Sun Salutations are it calms the nervous system, improves digested system, corrects imbalances and ensures a healthy heart.
Know the difference. Don't settle just to have people in your life. When I told someone the other day that I keep few friends, she was surprised and said it seemed like I had so many friends because of how easily I make connections. I told her that there is a difference in knowing someone and being friends. Genuine friendship, allowing others to know you and you them, is rare and beautiful. I hold my friends very dear to my heart. Yes I know a lot of people. It comes easy for me to make connections, but I am very in touch with my intuition and know when it's a healthy, mutual connection that is more than just a first name basis. When there is someone I think may be a friend, I put myself out there and give them a few opportunities to take the connection there. If there is no movement, I take it as a sign to let go and let it be what it is. There is no need in trying to get someones attention. The right people will always find you, even if it's few and far between. Even if they move all the way across the ocean (😉), they are still with you without question.