“At the end of the day, if someone wants to be in your life, they will be. Truly — they are capable, they will make the effort, they will show up. If they do not — let that be your closure.
However, you do not have to hate them. You do not have to remember their contribution to your life as anything but beautiful. Do not ruin them in your mind, do not grip until you feel resentment. Instead, love them without attachment. Love the lessons they taught you. Wish them well every single time you think about them. Miss them, but do not ache for them to come back. If the people in your life left because they were not ready to value you, or love you, or be there for you, do not wish for them back, do not ask for them to be more than they can be at the moment. Wish for them to figure themselves out. Wish for them to grow. They are on their own journey — a journey you are not a part of. And that is okay. You have to learn that that is okay.
So instead of focusing on the people who left, focus on the people in your life who have chosen to be there. Focus on the ones who stayed, on the ones who appreciate you and respect you. Focus on the people who match the love you give them, focus on the people who empower you and grow you and make your life beautiful. You are surrounded by human beings who will not shy away from the love you give. You are surrounded by human beings who know that they want you in their life, people who show you that every single day. Do not take them for granted. Do not lose touch of what you have, chasing what you no longer do.
Trust me when I say — you will miss out on beautiful things if you continue to stay rooted in all of the ways you were wronged, if you continue to let your past pull you from experiencing what the present has to offer you. Do not close yourself off to your potential. Instead, open yourself to the world, and allow for it to fill that space with the kinds of people, the kinds of moments, and the kinds of experiences that exhilarate you, that compel you — that make you love yourself, and your life, and what you have to offer, more and more each day.” — @rainbowsalt
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When i was mad at him, i went back to studying. I found a sentence "A women does not realize what her lover is doing for her, but complains about what her lover is not doing". I understood, that my anger was emotional that i had to control.
Amellia, Bandung 15 Desember 2019 23.51pm
Feliz aniversário, meu bem!
Eu te amo tanto que às vezes acho que esse amor não vai caber em mim. Que eu possa estar presente nesta data por infinitos anos para mostrar tudo o que sinto por você.
Eu te amo, te zelo, te cuido e te quero e pra sempre vai ser meu bem querer 🎶💞
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Good morning! First I want to start by saying that this coloring app blessed my life!
This image represents some of us.
I think we all need to get to a point in our relationship with God where we are vulnerable and communicate the issues we have if it be with ourselves or even with God himself.
Because He already knows about it. The feelings, the thoughts, all of it, He knows. Psalms 139 all together is an example of this. Verse 1 says, “O LORD, You have searched me and known me.” While verse 4 says this, “Lord, you know what I want to say, even before the words leave my mouth.” So He definitely knows.
When you come to God with your imperfections, it’s okay! He wants you to, so that we can have that trusting and loving relationship with Him. He isn’t looking for perfection but rather relationship.
The only one to walk this Earth who perfected the walk of Christ was Christ himself, and he was purposed for that! God sent him so that we can be saved and reconnect the bond that was lost between man and himself. He did!
God loves US so much that he purposefully send His son Jesus to DIE so that we may have life and a relationship with Him!
I thank God for the blood of Jesus! I thank Jesus for His sacrifice, because when we sin or even go to God in prayer, He sees His son! (1 John 2:1) We sinned The blood covered it (1 John 1:7) ! We can have this relationship with God ONLY through Jesus Christ (John 14:6) .
I don’t know about y’all but I thank God for Jesus! Like this picture says, I’m not perfect and I know I’ll never be, but I also thank God that He isn’t looking for perfection but rather relationship 😭🥰 #God1st #relationship #goodmorning #scriptures #quotes #unconditionallove #JESUS #ThankYouLord #sacrifice #hecovereditall #rememberwhoseyouare #christianbrand
As a therapist, I certainly help my clients develop skills— how to fight fair, how to ask for what you need in a way that invites collaboration not resistance, how to listen, how to apologize, how to forgive. But the function of skills is that they help a couple create the safety they need in order to open up. They help a couple feel curious about what’s going on inside of themselves and inside of each other. —-
Life is full of stressors, and the question is, “How do you face the stressor” Some of us are prone to resistance (“this is NOT happening.”). Some of us get focused on the assignment of blame. Some of us get lost in a story of unfairness. ——
In the face of a stressor, our work is to move from stuckness to flow. We get there by naming: “Ah, here I go again. I’m doing that thing I do when the stuff hits the fan.” Noticing is key. When we notice, the entire landscape changes. Rather than only having one way of coping (denial, blame, shame, resistance), we can begin to see more paths unfolding before us. We can begin to open ourselves to the lessons housed inside every single stressor. We create the potential to be in the trenches with our partner. And that’s the thing about a trench. It’s a helluva lot cozier when you’re in there with a buddy!
Am I gonna see you this afternoon at Create the Love Fest Can’t wait to give my friend @createthelove a squeeze. Save 20% on a last minute ticket using code LB20.