BODY LOVE VERSUS BODY ACCEPTANCE
I don’t believe you need to feel SEXY in the bedroom.
I’ll never tell you to rub coconut oil on your body and whisper sweet nothings to yourself.
Feeling sexy – whatever that means for you – is a fairly Western idea.
It’s why we idealise thinness, whiteness, big booties, big breasts, long hair, youth, etc.
Where there’s a lack of self identification with these markers of “sexiness”, we feel unworthy of experiencing pleasure.
My advice Stop trying to make yourself feel SEXY.
Focus on feeling comfortable, SENSUAL, aroused and safe.
Today loneliness weighed heavily on my mind and consumed the way my body felt which has been exhausting.
But after some reflection I feel good, reminding myself of my 'why', not being single because I have to be, but because I want to be. Putting me and my boys before anything else.
Loneliness can happen even when surrounded by people or in the middle of an amazing event, but it doesn't always have to be negative. For me it just provides an opportunity to learn, understand and develop.
Some days I wonder how I manage to juggle everything, without having someone to share life's ups and downs with, but I'm snuggled in my warm cosy bed tonight, practising gratitude and feeling proud.
#strongwomen #mumoftwo #mumofboys #strongmum #mentalhealth #lonliness #development #grattitude #selfcare #singlenotsad #singlenotlooking #singlenotsorry #reflection #reflect #grow #keepgoing #happiness
To do für heute: Lehnt euch zurück, und lauscht in unsere neue Single rein! (🔗 -> bio)
Die gibt's auch am Donnerstag live und in Farbe im @tsunami.cologne zu hören 🔥 Man greife sich hierzu noch die letzten Hardtickets ab, schreibt uns!
exactly a year ago, i was in the hospital, tube down my throat, holes in my stomach. pain had been creeping up for months, leaving me weak and skinny. i was barely going through the day, so sports forget about it.
thankfully, doctors found a diagnosis: a genetic stomach disease. i am allergic to most food: no wheat no bread no dairy no gluten no alcohol no onion no cauliflower no garlic no red meat no pasta no pizza no mushroom... wait what am i going to eat after months of diet trial and errors, i found a new energy, which i used it to get back to exercizing. yin yoga first. slowly, once every two weeks then twice a week. introducing new activities like swimming, biking and a bit of cardio. i held myself accountable for eating healthy food and working out regularly, always showing up on time.
this summer, i walked by @theplaygroundla on melrose and saw gorgeous amazons training. damn, i thought, i want be like them: body flowing like a river, setting the floor afire. finally pushed the door, laced up the boots and danced. dance brings me such joy but man, sometimes i’d feel like i wouldn’t belong. offbeat, tripping on the landing, but guess what; I’m having fun and I keep showing up.
as I was reflecting on my recovery on my way to class, a special guest greeted us... legendary choreographer @robinantin, founder of the pussycat dolls. wow, can’t believe she’d be our teacher for the day. started from the hospital bed and now i’m here. i went to thank her after class; “you did great and made me proud”, robin told me. i turned to the sky and sent a message to my one-year-ago self: you’re doing great and making me proud.
Flowers delivered to work by a mystery admirer. Well not completely mysterious now he’s introduced himself. It’s really odd being brought stuff by these lovely blokes. Coffee, tea, chocolate and now flowers. Moral of the story... don’t put where you work on Facebook and let the world see that you’re a #singlegirl #singlenotsorry #prettyflowers #lovelygestures