Majority of the people voted marriage as a personal action. But, Is marriage really a personal action
Marriage, you would say is something totally personal. Marriage and love are both called as 'personal'. But are we not guided by the society in all these matters So, are our marriages personal Is our love personal No, it's totally social. Society, religion, class, all these things are guiding even our most private and intimate matters.
Look at all those matrimonial portals. Anyone who wants to marry put up their profile there. When you are filling your profile form, it has sections for your religion, for your caste, for your gotra. It asks, "How much salary do you expect from your would-be spouse It's asks for height and kind of complexion you want. Whether the person should be living in a joint family or nuclear family
Now, are all these things not social Did you decide your religion Religion is totally social thing which is handed over to you by the society, and now you allow religion to come in the way of your love. Is love then social or personal You say, "I will marry someone from my gotra". You didn't decide your gotra, right So, are you marrying the person or is the gotra marrying the person Obviously, gotras are marrying each other. Where is any personal thing in this It's all social, you are not present in this. It's a crowd.
What we call as 'ourselves' is nothing but a crowd - mother, father, relatives and the entire world. Even you say that I am doing something personal, the entire crowd is present. What we need to do is, ask ourselves, is anything that I'm doing which is coming from my own free will Is there anything that is arising out of understanding Don't just blindly move into things just because the entire society blindly moves into them. Let intelligence function.
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