“Be positive, ignore it, say nothing, no bad vibes, be the bigger person, keep the peace etc. ”
How about NO. 👊🏻 It’s comments like that that have been silencing the voice of women for decades! 👎🏻 Why on earth should we just “take” shitty behavior or comments thrown at us, smile politely and get on with things without speaking up and saying F OFF
Women accepting shitty behavior and not biting back (whether it’s strangers, or partners or family members) - all because they have been taught it’s the “right” or “classy” or most feminine thing to do. It’s what good girls do, right 😏
I refuse to play that role. I will no longer play the “good girl”, if my energy is telling me to do otherwise I will listen and I will speak.
I am a kind person with a good heart but I swear to fuck, I WILL call you out on your shit. I will say 🖕🏼 🖕🏼 🖕🏼 if someone sends me a shady message, and I will be completely unapologetic about it.
If me saying GO FUCK YOURSELF when someone is nasty to me, gives another woman the courage to do the same, then I’m here for that and I am ALL in for that sort of empowerment 👏🏻 WE HAVE VOICES LET’S START USING THEM.
There’s no strength in staying silent when someone is directly being hateful to you.
Why do we encourage women to “ignore it” If something is actually bothering them
There’s strength in saying that was shitty of you, go away, 🖕🏼, and whatever else.
No you don’t need to dwell on it afterwards and yes you can swiftly move on with your life, and a lot quicker than if you were to suppress the emotion and pretend to smile sweetly.
There’s people on social media & in real life wearing masks, to be deemed “good”. What’s “good” in pretending to be something you’re not and toning your attitude down
Speaking up sometimes is misinterpreted as anger. Sometimes it IS anger! And that’s fine👏🏻 Speaking up for something whether it’s injustice towards yourself or others on this earth is a good thing. Feeling anger and speaking up is necessary and healthy.
So speak UP, you’ll be paving the path for those coming behind you who have been taught to play the “good girl game”. The game which messes us up in the long run 💛
Thank you for your open-mindedness and kindness, Northgate High School. Today was so cool and your kids are wonderful. We are crushing stigma one presentation at a time. What a great way to spend the day!
Speak your mind, share your thoughts, and make sure your opinions are heard. But, at the same time, be open to new ideas, give others a chance to talk, and listen just as much as you speak.⠀
When it comes to voicing your opinions or just keeping your mouth shut, you'll frequently run across quite a bit of conflicting advice. So, how can you know when you should grab the mic and when you're better off holding your tongue⠀
Ask yourself these three questions before opening your mouth, and you're sure to determine which route is best.⠀
1. Does this directly involve me⠀
2. Do I have something valuable to contribute⠀
3. What will happen if I don’t say anything
When you fear something your body responds as if what you are thinking is real. 😿Know yourself and know how you feel. Tune into your body and know that all is well. Meditation is a great way to connect with your body. 🙏 Perhaps consider looking at it as feeling excited and ready. 🤔How do you manage fear
2.15.19 - Fear is Real! - excerpt from Why Struggle life is too short to wear tight shoes by Barbara J. Faison