| truth moment | at first thought, you might be like, duh because I love them. and for many of us that might be where it ends. but for the rest of us, doing and showing up for others might be more complicated. for those of us that have some abandonment wounds, experiencing living losses are just too painful. so we use our skillz to keep people close, not because they offer meaningful connection but because it feels better to have people around than not. naturally, these relationships can feel imbalanced and are often times draining. you might find yourself thinking ‘if I don’t do this thing for this person’ or ‘if I say no they might not want to be friends with me anymore.’ this is being in relationship with your wounds and can be especially hurtful because it affirms beliefs that your worth is determined by how much you do for others. #truthmoment #truth #embodiedtruthhealing #therealest #mentalhealth #womenofcolor #codependency #dothework #losangelespsychologist
| truth moment | I didn’t realize I had been angry until I felt the spaciousness it left behind. I spent a lot of time making sure I didn’t take up too much emotional space as a child, you know, ‘be seen, not heard.’ in many ways it was a survival thing to navigate my ‘home’ spaces. there simply wasn’t enough room for me to have emotions that reflected pain, sadness, anger, rebellion, or independence. be small and/or attend to the experience of others were the implied expectations. and so I did and I did it well. so well that i forgot how to BE angry. as an adult i’m realizing how important it is to give myself permission to feel, to swell, to move through. it is my experience that suppressing anger sometimes means compromising my boundaries and can lead to that old familiar pattern of taking care of others. sometimes it has also meant over-explaining myself because i don’t want to be misunderstood.
it’s profound, when i remembered my anger, i realized that it’s really about the emotions beneath it...the frustration, disappointment, hurt, fear. when i remembered my anger, i was able to take care of the little girl inside, to make space for her emotional experience, to take care of her without the consequences of before, to stop explaining myself. and i realized, it’s impossible to explain the emotions of the ocean. and that created space, space inside and spaces outside with people who see me who tell me to be seen, to be big, to be heard.
#embodiedocean #wavesliketheocean #imwavy #stillworkingonit #workinprogress #intouchwithmyanger #beseenbeheard #angerisnotmyenemy #shoutouttothelittlegirlinside #spacious #truthmoment #embodiedtruthhealing #losangelespsychologist #therealest #drshenayoung #blackgirlmagic #mentalhealth #womenofcolor 📷 @kelleyraye_
what is trauma informed yoga you may have been wondering about this as it’s gaining buzz...this is good for all of us who have survived something difficult, something that violated our sense of power and choice. in my opinion, any helping professional/healer in any discipline should be grounded in trauma informed principles, but nobody asked me *steps down from soap box*. trauma informed practices consider the many ways traumatic experiences continue to impact us beyond the lived experience of trauma, whether it was a one time experience or an ongoing/multiple occurrence. it acknowledges the numerous known and unanticipated ways a survivor can be triggered in any moment...being touched by a yoga teacher without permission for example. this has happened to me countless times.
trauma informed yoga considers the complexity and sensitivity of a survivor’s experience and offers a practice that supports connection with intuition, mindful presence in the body, and reclamation of power through making choices with the body in the moment. it is healing on the mat that eventually shows up in lived experience off the mat, in the body, in spirit, and in relationship. if you’d like to know more, join me this friday, 6/8 630-830 pm @greentreeyogala for a presentation about tiy followed by a yoga practice, link in bio for tickets. NO PERSONAL DISCLOSURES OF TRAUMA OR YOGA EXPERIENCE REQUIRED! and if you’re really feeling inspired, my good sister friend Zabie @transcending_trauma_with_yoga still has a few spots left in her trauma informed yoga training later this month, check her out.
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